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10 Things Being Engaged Has Taught Me

Aubrey
Apr 23, 2016
3 min read

Over the last few months I've learned some pretty interesting things- about myself, about Cory, about us as a couple. It's been an enlightening time, I'll tell you that. For example I've learned that...

1) We are already an old married couple. I always knew I was an old soul, but I hadn't realized just how old Cory and I were until I reflected on us one night, sitting on the couch eating our TV dinner in our pjs and watching "Family Feud" (and getting really into it). This view has only solidified since we got (really) excited about an estate sale and went shopping for couch cleaners.

2) I'm not "wifey material." Let's be real, it's no secret that I don't know my way around the kitchen (other than going to the fridge for some pizza and a bottle of wine), but good grief. When we were registering and I was genuinely confused as to why I needed a potato peeler or blender, I realized my grandma's hope of "getting to a man's heart through his stomach" will forever be unfulfilled. Sorry, baby. At least the house will be clean...mostly.

3) Cory loves cutting boards. Thankfully for me, at least Cory is a good cook. I didn't realize, though, how genuinely excited he'd be to register at Bed Bath & Beyond...Ha! I was truly baffled by how passionate he was about picking the perfect cutting board. Why? Just why?

4) Being married is expensive. We're still over a year away from the wedding, and we're already realizing how expensive the "real world" is. Yikes! Can we skip the registry all together and just accept (lots of) cash?

5) I am more of a people pleaser than I thought. I knew I would struggle with planning a wedding that would be fun for everyone (I know it's "our" day, but I want everyone to have a good time or I won't have a good time!), but lord, I never thought I'd spend 45 minutes debating plate colors with a store clerk. Why did I even put some of those things on the registry? I don't know! I didn't want to tell her "no." She was so nice. THIS IS SO MUCH PRESSURE. I'll take the damn plates.

6) We have some amazing friends. We always knew we had some special people in our lives, but since we've gotten engaged we've really seen the true worth of our friends. People are so kind to us and want us to have a great engagement/wedding/marriage. They're supportive and fun and kind...really, I should have just named this bullet point "we have great taste in friends!"

7) We're the perfect balance. I knew we were great together when we were just dating, but since getting engaged we've really tested each other. I've had (several) breakdowns (I spelled "association" wrong on the wedding website, for crying out loud! ASSOCIATION! It was a disaster.), and Cory has been right by my side, calming me down and keeping everything so lighthearted and fun. In return, I have helped Cory find the floor in his room (hint: I picked up the clothes) and keep his shoulder (mostly) in place. We're good together.

8) We have no idea what a theme is. If our hodge-podge registry and varied website color scheme have shown us anything, it's that we have no single vision of how, well, anything, should look. According to Cory our home should be "rustic festive," and apparently I believe it should be country-chic-bright-shabby-colorful-rustic-boho theme. We're clueless. We just like everything (help!).

9) We have no idea what music works for a party playlist. Cory loves sad songs (WHY!?), and my criteria for an engagement party song is that someone must shout "OHHH SNAP This is my JAM!" the moment the song begins. May 7 should be interesting.

10) Overall I've learned that being engaged is AWESOME! I get to call Cory my finace' every single day. I get to wear this GORGEOUS ring on my finger every single day. Being engaged is like dating on steroids. You can quote me on that.

Being engaged has given us some great life lessons already. You should try it sometime!

XOXO